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đ„ Leaving No Doubt, Living With The Noise, and Winning Bar Fights
Welcome to the 21st edition of the Action Digest, where youâll find decisions that altered the course of history, revenge-fueled origin stories, and bar fights.
Well, itâs not called the Action Digest for nothinâ!
Coming up:
đ A twelve year oldâs history-changing response to criticism reveals a lesson on using critique as fuel for growth.
đ« Michelle Obama reveals what all of the âextraordinary and accomplished peopleâ sheâs met have in common.
đ€ We learn what happened after a cowboy insulted president Theodore Roosevelt at a bar, along with an underlying principle for handling haters.
And more!!
P.s., you can check out editions 1-20 here in case you missed them, including insights such as the mindset that helped an entrepreneur build seven different billion-dollar companies, how Steve Jobs cultivated great creative taste, and why success might be much closer than we thought possible.
Seriously, there are some gems youâll appreciate in these earlier editions.
1. Dig deep, understand the issue, and refine your work
When Founding Father Ben Franklin was twelve, he wrote letters back and forth with âanother bookish lad in the townâ to practice his ability to make arguments.
But when Benâs father discovered the letters, he had some critiques, âhe took occasion to talk to me about the manner of my writing,â Ben recalled, â[he] observed that, though I had the advantage of my antagonist in correct spelling and pointing, I fell far short in elegance of expression, in method and perspicuity, of which he convinced me by several instances.â
Ben admired his father and the criticism could have shaken his confidence in his writing or discouraged him from the craft altogether. But thatâs not what happened. âI saw the justice of his remark,â Ben admits, âand thence grew more attentive to the manner in writing, and determined to endeavor at improvement.â
Ben started by finding an example of great writing that he admired. He bought a copy of the Spectator, a publication that featured daily essays and commentary, and âread it over and over, and was much delighted with it. I thought the writing excellent, and wished, if possible, to imitate it.â
Next, he designed an exercise whereby he would note down an argument that was made in the article, set aside the note for a few days, and then try to express the argument in his own words, before finally comparing his version with the Spectators.
âWith this view I took some of the papers, and, making short hints of the sentiment in each sentence, laid them by a few days, and then, without looking at the book, try'd to compleat the papers again, by expressing each hinted sentiment at length, and as fully as it had been expressed before, in any suitable words that should come to hand. Then I compared my Spectator with the original, discovered some of my faults, and corrected them.â
Eventually, Ben found he preferred some of his own writing to that of the Spectator, âI sometimes had the pleasure of fancying that, in certain particulars of small import, I had been lucky enough to improve the method or the language, and this encouraged me to think I might possibly in time come to be a tolerable English writer, of which I was extremely ambitious.â
Benâs dedication, of course, paid offâculminating in his pivotal role in drafting the Declaration of Independence and the U.S. Constitution, forever shaping the course of American history. When someone gives you valid criticism, itâs time to dig deep, understand the issue, and refine your work until the error is eliminated.
2. The noise doesnât go away, you learn to live with it
When Michelle Obama told her college counselor that she was applying to Princeton University, she received some disappointing feedback. âIâm not sure,â Michelle remembers her counselor saying, âthat youâre Princeton material.â
âHer judgment was as swift as it was dismissive,â Michelle writes, and it almost killed her hopes. âAs Iâve said, failure is a feeling long before itâs an actual result. And for me, it felt like thatâs exactly what she was plantingâa suggestion of failure long before Iâd even tried to succeed. She was telling me to lower my sights.â
Fortunately, Michelle didnât listen. âInstead, I switched my method without changing my goal. I would apply to Princeton and a scattershot selection of other schools, but without any more input from the college counselor. Instead, I sought help from someone who actually knew me. Mr. Smith, my assistant principal and neighbor, had seen my strengths as a student and furthermore trusted me with his own kids. He agreed to write me a recommendation letter.â
From there, Michelle doubled down on her studies. âThat day I left the college counselorâs office at Whitney Young, I was fuming, my ego bruised more than anything. My only thought, in the moment, was Iâll show you. But then I settled down and got back to work.â âI was beginning to understand that if I put in extra hours of studying, I could often close the gap. I wasnât a straight-A student, but I was always trying, and there were semesters when I got close.â
Six months later, an offer letter from Princeton arrived in Michelleâs mailbox.
âIâve been lucky enough now in my life to meet all sorts of extraordinary and accomplished people,â Michelle concludes, âWhat Iâve learned is this: All of them have had doubters. Some continue to have roaring, stadium-sized collections of critics and naysayers who will shout I told you so at every little misstep or mistake. The noise doesnât go away, but the most successful people I know have figured out how to live with it, to lean on the people who believe in them, and to push onward with their goals.â
3. Leave no doubt that you are there to accomplish something
When future president Theodore Roosevelt first arrived in congress as a young man, âwe almost shouted with laughter,â recalled one politician of the day.
âThe new gold-rimmed spectacles and their fluttering black ribbon, his gold watch fob, the part in his hair, the narrow cut of his clothes, made him known at once,â writes David McCullough, one of Theodoreâs biographers. âFor reporters for the Sun, the World, and other Democratic papers, he was the fairest kind of game and they went right after him. He was called a âJane-Dandy,â âhis Lordship,â âweakling,â âsilly,â âOscar Wilde,â âthe exquisite Mr. Roosevelt,â âlittle man,â the fun always at his expense. The World reported that his trousers were cut so tight that when making his âgyrationsâ before an audience âhe only bent the joints above the belt.ââ
Yet despite all this,â McCullough continues, âhe left no doubt that he was there to accomplish somethingââto do the right thing.ââ
Theodore learned to respond to criticism, both personal and professional, with a range of tactics. With self-deprecating humor, by acknowledging valid criticism, by ignoring baseless accusations, by doubling down on his efforts, and sometimes by literally hitting back.
âThere came a moment one night in a bar across the Montana line in what was then known as Mingusville (present-day Wibaux) when he stood up and in quiet, businesslike fashionâflattened an unknown drunken cowboy who, a gun in each hand, had decided to make a laughingstock of him because of his glasses. Theodore knocked him cold with one punch. As Theodore later explained, the man had made the mistake of standing too close to him and with his heels close together.â
The takeaway? Leave the haters with no doubt that you are here to accomplish something.
Oh, and donât start saloon fights. But if you do: be sure to adopt a suitably wide stance ;-)
4. The path ahead is always the same: action
The pattern of todayâs edition is that the most successful people all respond to criticism in the same way. Sometimes itâs implementing a new approach, sometimes itâs studying great work, and sometimes itâs doubling down on a current strategy.
But the path ahead always eventually has the same thing in common: action.
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5. Rejection is just your cue toâŠ
Saxophonist Kenny G spearheaded the genre of smooth jazz and is one of the wealthiest wind players of all time. But he couldnât even get into his high schoolâs bandâŠ.
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Weâll leave you with thisâŠ
âIt is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.â
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